Appreciate the child you have, rather than wanting to make her into someone else. The blocks to love melt away, and our love becomes unconditional.Ģ. Of view, misbehavior is suddenly comprehensible, forgivable. When we see things from our child's point When children act out, they're telling us - in the only way they can at that moment - that they need our help. Maybe he needs your help to learn some better strategies to keep track of things so he doesn't lose them.I hear how disappointed you are about this.") Maybe she'd stop arguing if you acknowledged her upset with empathy, so she didn't have to shout to feel heard.(Might be time to try one of those potty watches made for kids.) Maybe she gets so involved in her play that she forgets all about the potty you've been using one for years but this is all new to her - and it sureĭoesn't seem as important as whatever she's involved with at the moment.Maybe he'd be nicer to his sister if he wasn't worried that he's lost his special place in your heart, and what he needs is more connection to you.That underlying reason, not the behavior, and you'll see a change in your child - because you answered her SOS. Under your child's misbehavior there is always a reason, an upset feeling or unmet need. But we could see it another way, a way that is actually much closer to reality:Īll "misbehavior" from your child is an SOS. Naturally, we assume we're right.which makes our child wrong. He learns that he's more than enough, exactly as he is. Accept him for who he is without comparing him to others, and help him be his best self:.He learns to clean up his own messes, including emotional ones. Apologize when you mess up (because we all do!):.He learns that mistakes are part of growing Accept that he's an immature human who naturally makes mistakes:.
Remember to empathize as you set limits, so he WANTS to follow them:.
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He learns from your modeling how to regulate his emotions.
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